Stop That...but you can't.

You find yourself having done or said something you just didn’t want to do, say, and especially feel.  “Why do I keep doing this?”


No Tears in Texas

…we went to Texas to get our “grief on.”  I knew we needed to go.  I was very much confirmed in that belief when Rachel so quickly agreed that we needed to go.


Just Beneath the Surface

As it is, I have a yard to clean up.  I have some things to work through.  There is no finish line…


Thank You!

It is my focus moving forward to send more individual thank you’s to folks but I will now (in reader friendly list form) thank you collectively in this post.


“Be kind.  Everyone you meet today is battling something.”

Jay Mitlo is the youngest son of Thomas and Betty Ann Mitlo.  Jay is a 1989 graduate of Penn Hills High School in Pittsburgh, PA and 1993 graduate of Indiana University in Bloomington Indiana. He has over 20 years of ministry experience and education.  He has been on staff as the Metro Director for YoungLife in Pittsburgh (teen outreach ministry), Executive Pastor of Rolling Hills Church, and now is the Pastor at Faith Community Church in Penn Hills. 

Jay spent some time training with the Center for Relational Care out of Austin Texas.  It was there where he learned about Emotional/Relational needs, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and most of all…comfort.  This revolutionized his ministry, teaching, and life.

He launched this website in June of 2012.  There have been over 250 posts on many topics but all focus on being real, dealing with life (the good and the worst), and simply telling his story.

You see, his youngest son Trey was diagnosed with cancer in 2010.  Though it has been deemed terminal he is still fighting hard.  He lives a “normal” life  and doesn’t even know what cancer is, that he has it or what his diagnosis is.  The hospital is just where he goes, it’s normal, it’s his life.  He has earned his nickname “YoungWarrior.” 

Along with Trey are his older siblings Joe and Bella. One of Jay’s primary responsibilities is helping them to not get swallowed up with their brother’s disease.  They are incredible and enough to handle on their very own.  You’ll get to know them too as you read along.

Jay has always been very involved in the local community. He has coached the Penn Hills volleyball teams since 1996 and has been the “voice of the Penn Hills Indians” announcing the football and basketball games (and many other school and community things) since 2009.

Jay has been blessed to be the husband of Rachel since 1999.  Out of respect for her he will not go into much detail about her (except in just about every post) other than she is the most amazing woman he has ever met. 

All About Trey